Robert Pagliarini

Your Other 8 Hours

The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson’s Death

By Robert Pagliarini | Jul 6, 2009 |

How many of your precious other 8 hours have you spent following the death of Michael Jackson in the past 12 days?  Surely you’ve read a magazine or newspaper article about his life. Maybe you saw a special TV episode about his contribution to music or “experts” discuss how many facial surgeries he may have had. Or most recently, you may have discussed the saga over his children, Will, and debt with friends and co-workers.

It has been difficult to escape the media’s seemingly never ending “reporting” of all things Michael Jackson, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Your other 8 hours are a gift and a tool that can be used to help you learn a new skill, get closer to family, create something, achieve your goals, and start a side business. You need to protect them like your life depended on it, because it does.

Most of us are sponges — we suck up whatever is in front of us. If it’s making the headlines it must be important. If it’s on the cover of magazines it must be important. If people are talking about it around the water cooler, it must be important.

The problem is that there seems to be an inverse relationship between importance and attention. The things that are truly banal get front page status and the things that are of great importance get buried somewhere on page 26.

Don’t blame the media. They don’t purport to educate. Blame yourself. Stop being a sponge. Be selective about what you let in.

Michael Jackson sung some truly great songs, and I’ll admit I spent many hours in my youth trying to moonwalk, but stop wasting your life focusing on someone else’s. The real tragedy is that you invested your other 8 hours learning intimate details of Michael Jackson’s life but could have used this time to better your own life.

There’s another M. Jackson we should celebrate. He wasn’t the King of Pop but he did something honorable - Marlon P. Jackson served in the United States Army in Operation Iraqi Freedom. We don’t need an autopsy or a toxicology report, because we know he was killed by a makeshift bomb in Iraq when he was only 25 years old.

There are 5,013 others like Marlon P. Jackson. Bookmark Faces of the Fallen, and each day click on one face and read the life and death of our true national heroes.

Headlines don’t matter. Focus on what’s important.

If you’re interested in using your other 8 hours to get your finances in shape, you can download my free eBook/audiobook “Plan Z: How to Survive the 2009 Financial Crisis (and even live a little better).”

(Michael Jackson image by nyki_m, CC 2.0)

 
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    Sarah1217

    07/07/09 | Report as spam

    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    So is reading your blog posts and your books also a waste of our other 8 hours? Maybe there is something to be learned from MJ's death. By the way his memorial service was awesome!

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    More2BSaid

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    It's hard to fathom that you'd twist such a tragedy to promote your upcoming book. Yes, our time is precious, but you're missing a much bigger picture. While the vast majority of onlookers are just that; there are MANY important lessons resulting from these recent events. Not only does this remind us that those close to us are important, but that life is precious. Mr. Jackson used his extraordinarily talent to improve the lives of others by teaching and collaborating with other artists, donating his time and resources to ill and underprivileged children and overcoming barriers, racial and otherwise. Certainly you can't be suggesting that reflecting upon this and personally applying the lessons that come from Mr. Jackson's life and death is a waste of time. Being introspective and taking personal inventory help us refine who we are and why we do what we do, including productively and financially. And, yes, Marlon P. Jackson?s life and death is important; and, yes, there are lessons to be learned there, too. However, before you attack a situation to serve your own financial gain, perhaps you should look further. Might I add that in addition to how this has impacted me on self analytical level, it has opened the door for me to talk to my children, not only about how fragile life is and that family is so very important but also about financial planning and creating a will so that your final wishes can be carried out. And regardless of the outcome of the toxicology reports, this has provided yet another opportunity to stress the dangers of drugs. You don't have to be a fan to take something away from Mr. Jackson's death; you just have to be intelligent enough to see the learning potential and making it work to your benefit. Congrats on slanting your post in your favor but shame on you for being so narrow minded and self serving.

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    cplantier

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    Good point!

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @Sarah1217 Yes, reading my blog posts and books are a waste of your other 8 hours if you don't learn from them or get any value from the content. Same is true of MJ. Do you really need to watch near 24/7 coverage of it? The enlightened fan would pick and choose what was relevant and consciously determine how much time to spend, but most people watch and watch and watch just because it's on. I appreciate your comment.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @More2BSaid You caught me. I've been patiently waiting for Michael Jackson to pass away so I could then promote my free book.

    If you've really discovered lessons from this event, I sincerely applaud you. Talking to kids about drugs because of this is a fantastic idea. BUT, how many people watch just to watch? This dominated the "news." Every channel, every program. Saying the same thing over and over. We've lost 5,014 brave soldiers in Iraq/Afghanistan and how much airtime do they get? Zilch.

    Sponges suck up whatever is in front of them. Let's unplug from autopilot and think about what we consume.

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    Curtis Estes

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    Great words of wisdom Robert. I couldn't agree more with the
    importance of placing the highest value on our time, especially
    the other eight hours!

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @Curtis Estes Much thanks, sir.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @cplantier Thanks! I was beginning to think everyone liked watching the same footage about MJ a hundred times.

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    MoneyMama

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    I think you are spot on again! And thanks for linking to Faces of the Fallen. Those are the real heroes!

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @MoneyMama Thanks for the comment. I can't tell you how much the Faces of the Fallen website has given me perspective and appreciation for the sacrifice our soldiers are making.

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    ms. e

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    more2Bsaid, i am agreeing with you. Hey BNET, what is this guy doing here, and i found this on alain botton's page, gee. and look, he is posing as tony robins lookalike.

    so you are shoving it, but let me tell you i have used my time well, hearing the message of MJ ring pure and clear. he is healing the world, and you are not helping by perching like some know-it-all and accusing people as sponges. what makes me think i should open your book, even when it is free.

    but thanks for trying to get an MJ title to catch my attention, now we know who to avoid.

    make a better place, robert, and have a nice day.

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    drose123

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    The MJ coverage by the media was a little much, but given the competitiveness of 24 hour news coverage these days I'm not surprised. This story was a media dream...humble beginnings, super stardom and sucess, money, debt, drugs, scandal and a monkey named Bubbles. My choice is to inform myself and move on and not let the media overkill dominate my quality time.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @ms. e It's one thing to criticize me, but please don't offend Tony Robbins!

    I want you to use your time well. I want you to be critical of everything and everyone that wants to occupy space in your head. Don't watch because it's on. Don't read because it's there (yes, even my blog). Make a conscious decision.

    I've had many a conversation about this post, and those that disagree, think I'm down on MJ and that I'm trying to minimize his contribution, but they (and I'm guessing you), got it wrong. I'm not trying to stop the love, I'm trying to spread it to those folks who the media seems to have forgotten.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @drose123 A media dream it was (and still continues to be). Sounds like you've got a good approach.

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    immaterialgirl

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    I think those of you who are slamming the article is missing the point. I don't believe Robert means MJ any disrespect. If anything, it's the media that is exploiting his life and death by EXCESSIVELY covering every minute detail and scandal surrounding the tragedy, all for the purpose of drawing viewership. Thank you Robert of pointing this out!

    The reality is that a lot of us are intrigued and facinated by the life of celebrities. That's why magazines like People and Us Weekly are so popular. Are there lessons to be learned by other people's lives? Maybe. But there are far more to gain by living yours, in the here and now, with those that surround you.

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    More2BSaid

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    You're so right! I was totally implying that you were watching and wait for this to happen to promote your free book! So can you let us all know where to get the free copy of the book listed in your bio as being published at the first of the year? That's why I called this post self-promoting...."Your Other 8 Hours" - your new book's title - is a repetitive theme to create a name; a familiarity for your brand. And, using Mr. Jackson under false pretenses to get readers here is genius! So now you've not only gotten attention, but you're forever linked to him through Google searches. If anyone finds you this way, I only hope that they look beyond the tag line and read the article. I'm not saying that you don't have some good points because you do. What I take offense to is how you do it. While you "spin" your responses to say that you're not knocking Mr. Jackson, your blog implies that he's "banal", that he's not a "true national hero" and that he's not important. If that's the case, why use his name to pull readers? (immaterialgirl take note...this is also for the purpose of "viewership"...) Why not title this "Headlines Don't Matter?" Because obviously in some form or another they do. Comparing Jackson vs. Jackson in terms of importance is not fair; just as it's important not to offend Tony Robbins by comparing him to you. Life should be celebrated regardless of being a soldier or a pop icon, a working dad or a stay at home mom, a student or the president, regardless of class, etc. There are so many "heroes" defined or not, sung or unsung, to recognize even a portion of them. And if drawing from the experiences of others isn't important, why do we have the news; history books; THE BIBLE?......... The REAL tragedy behind Mr. Jackson's death is how many people are trying to capitalize from it.......

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @immaterialgirl Good points. I do not mean any disrespect to MJ or his fans. My beef is with (1) the media's never ending coverage of it and (2) how easy it is to get sucked into caring about every aspect of his life and death just because it's on the radio/TV and in every magazine/newspaper in the country.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    @More2BSaid Firstly, thanks for coming back and continuing the conversation--I appreciate it.

    Secondly, I think our true disagreement comes down to how we view MJ. It is obvious you cared very deeply about him and, at least on some level, consider him a hero. I get that. But aren't you disgusted by the 24/7 attention from the media? The same media said nothing positive about him for 20 years is now glorifying him.

    I definitely wouldn't call MJ a national hero and wouldn't put him in the same league as the soldiers who fight for our country. So when I see continuous coverage of MJ and not coverage of the other M Jackson, it pisses me off.

    The second point is that we have too few years, days, hours to live. Most of us (including me) are like Pavlov's dogs--we see a stimulus and we have a conditioned (i.e., without thought) response. The media blankets us with Breaking News, and we follow it and follow it and follow it. We get sucked into events that steal our time and add no value to our lives without even questioning it. Do we really need another MJ special? And more importantly, do you really need to watch another MJ special?

    Lastly, am I promoting something? Of course I am. I'm promoting my ideas. Anyone who writes non-fiction is trying to sell you their ideas. This blog is a result of my interest in using free time to expand lives and creating more meaning. As you've noticed, it's no coincidence that the blog title and theme is similar to my forthcoming book--it's because that's what I'm interested in and like to write about. This is no different from Oprah extending her brand from the TV show to her magazine.

    If you continue to read the blog (and I hope you do), I look forward to more exchanges with you. You're clearly passionate and opinionated--two great qualities!

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    By the way, here's a journalist's take on the over-coverage of MJ. http://www.marketwatch.com/story/michael-jackson-saga-how-did-the-media-do

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    cplantier

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    I agree with you completely Robert about media coverage. It's so easy to just absorb what the media shows us without any filtering, that oftentimes we waste our time listening to something that shouldn't be even be in the news, but it is just because it's somehow dramatic and it sells. It amazes me how much time the media spends telling us all about the lives of the so called "celebrities", when in fact there are so much more important things to think about. I'm not talking in specific about MJ, but in general to what our media covers daily. Yes we should filter the information we get and yes we should look for sources we believe are reliable, but with so many things to do everyday that task is very hard.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @cplantier Exactly. We assume that if it's on, it must be important. MJ is just one (albeit an extreme one) example of this. It is difficult to weed through the important versus just the immediate. I think we can get distracted from what's really important because we assume that if it's immediate (i.e., breaking news) it must be important.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @cplantier Exactly. We assume that if it's on, it must be important. MJ is just one (albeit an extreme one) example of this. It is difficult to weed through the important versus just the immediate. I think we can get distracted from what's really relevant because we assume that if it's immediate (i.e., breaking news) it must be important.

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    BuzzandtheCity

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    Agree w Robert, I am so tired of infotainment it worries me



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    Robert Pagliarini

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    @Rebecc@... "Infotainment" . . . well put.

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    HealthcareRN

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    Excellent points Robert! I am not in the least bit offended by your end-of-blog book offering. If I was interested I'd order it and if not I'd simply disregard it. Your blog is more about raisning consciousness.
    I received an email recently with content very similar to your blog...Wake up America! I fully support our military and my heart goes out to our military families who feel tremendous loss and must grieve in obscurity while one person is seemingly deified in the media. I join the others here who respected Michael Jackson's talent and enjoyed (most of) his music. And I hope with all my heart that he was prepared for eternity. But I know many, many talented individuals whose work goes unnoticed simply because they're not media stars. I don't think that was Jackson's fault - I think it was the fault of the "sponge concept" Robert discussed...we watch b/c its right in front of us instead of putting forth the effort to find out what's going on in the world beyond ourselves.
    Great post.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    @HealthcareRN Thanks for your comments. I haven't heard of "Wake Up America" but I will definitely check it out. Speaking of quiet heroes . . . I'm sure there are many patients that would praise your talents.

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    HealthcareRN

    07/27/09 | Report as spam

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    Actually, "Wake Up America" was my own assessment - not the title of the email I mentioned. Sorry for any confusion..
    Thanks for your kind words.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    @HealthcareRN I guess that's why I couldn't find it...

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    Tarerelove

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    RE: The Real Tragedy of M. Jackson's Death

    I quite agree with you to an extent and also with More2BSaid. In as much as we loved M.J, our lives has to go one. We have to allow the hidden icon in us to come into manifestation and this cannot be achieved with feeding our thoughts and mind on the lifes and pilgrimage of M.J. I loved M.J a lot but i wanna GET OVER this lost and make the world a better place by Making an Impact based on who I am as a person and What i can Achieve.

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    Robert Pagliarini

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    @Tarerelove Thanks for your input. Mourning is natural and healthy. Watching the same coverage of MJ over and over just because it's on TV is a waste of time.

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Robert Pagliarini

Robert Pagliarini is the author of the No. 1 bestseller Six-Day Financial Makeover. His second book, Your Other 8 Hours: Get More Time. Get a Life. Get Rich., will be published in January 2010. He has become a familiar face on Good Morning America and has appeared on 20/20, ABC Morning News, NPR’s Marketplace and in The Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, Money Magazine, and many others. Robert is the president of Pacifica Wealth Advisors, Inc., a boutique wealth management firm recently ranked No. 4 in Southern California. He is a Certified Financial Planner and has a master’s degree in financial services.

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