6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

Since the unspoken rules of many social-networking sites evolve daily, it’s all too easy to commit online gaffes and sabotage your career-advancement goals. Here are six common online missteps to avoid.

1. Don’t be a job-search bore

Few people would walk into a professional meeting and ask for job leads, but many seasoned professionals commit the online version of this faux pas regularly. No matter how well you know contacts — or how panicked you are about unemployment — never mention a job hunt in an initial note to anyone on a social-networking site. “You’ve got to think of all the people who are looking for jobs right now — they’re probably being overwhelmed,” says Randy Hain, managing partner of Bell Oaks Executive Search in Atlanta. Instead, offer some praise or acknowledgement or, even better, some well-thought-out help or advice with no strings attached.

2. Don’t be too stiff

While you don’t want to share too much, leaving all personal information out of your profiles to protect your privacy can put you in the same league as colleagues who show up for casual Friday in a business suit. A few well-chosen items about your interests or charitable activities can make it easier for other like-minded folks on a site — including potential employers — to strike up a conversation. “If you just put your resume on LinkedIn, you’ll be like 500 other people who share the same skill set,” says Hain.

Antoine Dubeauclard, president of the Web-development company MediaG in Troy, Mich., says his company routinely researches potential hires on social-networking sites to figure out what type of projects would be a good fit for them. If he found from a person’s Facebook page that a candidate was really interested in music, for example, he might try to see if he could have them work with music-industry clients. “We want to get to know them,” Dubeauclard says. “What are the things that get them really excited? When we can dovetail, that makes them much happier.”

3. Don’t remain invisible

Put up a photo, even if you haven’t lost that 30 pounds or tried Botox. It makes the process a little more human and warm. And if someone is going to discriminate against you because of how you look, you probably don’t want to work with them anyway.

4. Don’t market yourself on anyone’s Facebook page — or even look like you’re trying to

“Some people really cross the line,” says Matthew Fraser, a senior research fellow at INSEAD and co-author of Throwing Sheep in the Boardroom: How Online Social Networking Will Transform Your Life, Work, and World. “As soon as you accept an offer to be their friend, they’ll write a note on your wall: ‘I’m Bill Jones. I’m a life coach. I help people solve their problems.’ You realize someone is using your personal space as a billboard for their business, and it’s irritating.”

5. Don’t goof around

“I get a lot of people poking me on Facebook and sending me goofy stuff,” says Sharon Rich, founder of outplacement consulting and coaching firm Leadership Incorporated. “If I’m working on building a business relationship with them, I’ll respond and say thank you. But privately I find that I think of the person as being less than professional.” It’s better to just stick to direct messages on Facebook with your professional contacts.

6. Don’t let your networking end online

Many people rack up new connections on sites like LinkedIn without ever solidifying the relationships they’ve started there. Try to set up an in-person meeting when you can, or perhaps even arrange a “virtual coffee,” where you both chat by phone over a cup of coffee at your desks, advises Rich. “Once you’re in a real relationship with someone, you find out who they are and how they’re doing,” Rich says. “And when you help them, they’ll try to help you back.”

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    pooja.ajmera

    07/23/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Hmm..good one..I liked the last one the most as this will help in making the connections stronger and then there are more chances of that person helping us, when we are in need.

    Regards,
    Pooja Ajmera

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    gchaps1

    07/24/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I like this one very much, I could never have realised how big an instrument social networks can unbreak what we have built over the years.... kudos!

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    MimiQuick

    07/24/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    This was a fabulous way to confirm that I am on the right track. My contacts have always been very important to me...and I know that they know it!

    P.S. These "6 Do Not Do Tips" were
    very elightening. I am sending this link to everyone on my list!!

    Sincerely,
    Mimi Quick


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    YogaJane4

    07/24/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Good stuff. I especially agree with the don't poke thing and be silly. I get stupid quizzes and other weird stuff from the most unexpected people and then it makes me think, this is what they are doing with their "work" time?

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    gaildonegan

    07/30/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    This is the most informative 'things you should/shouldn't do on 'twitter/facebook' or in my case 'linkedin' -

    I agree that the 'virtual coffee' idea is really novel.

    I'd really like to give that one a go myself



    Gail

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    mosesnbklyn

    07/30/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on SOCIAL WEBSITES

    I think there is a big distinction to be made here: Linked-In is the professional networking site; facebook, twitter, friendster, hulu, etc are social - you can network and solicit sales, but ultimately if you are conducting business on these sites expect all the SPAM, garbage that people who have nothing better to do sent....whats worse is Whimit - the russian community - half these kids are hackers and will sell ad space on your profile!! haha OMG

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    heidiblue00

    07/31/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    What tips do people have for keeping Facebook for friends/family seperate from professional?

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    dpitts@...

    08/02/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    This is the most informative and probably best video that I?ve had the pleasure to watch on the ?things you should/shouldn?t do? in social networking environments. The piece on ?virtual coffee? is a wonderful suggestion that I will be implementing immediately, in addition to the advice on paying it forward with a recommendation to someone weekly. Great job on the topic and discussion point; Kudos!

    Skipper

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    ambersdad

    08/20/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I found this to be very informative and an affirmation of my decision not to sign up for Facebook or MySpace. I've been on LinkedIn for at least 5 years and I have never received one piece of SPAM or anything inappropriate for that matter. I think of LinkedIn as 'MySpace' for grown-ups.

    (No, I don't work for LinkedIn)

    If I were a Rock Star I'd use Twitter. Otherwise, I see it as a waste of time.

    Virtual coffee = GREAT IDEA!

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    DataDude1

    08/28/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I would also add develop personas. Facebook, IMHO, is a better social tool, whereas LinkedIn is all about business. You need places to let your hair down, so to speak. Perhaps try Facebook with family and friends and keep LinkedIn available for more "professional" activities.

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    LvTravel

    09/08/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Great article. I just got involved with Facebook so I can be more current in these areas with family and friends. This article and video were very insiteful for me so I can continue to move forward updating my profile in my professional field. Twitter, I really have no desire to follow this type of crowed. It may be good for some but for me it only sounds like it would be time consuming and not benificial in any way for me professionally.

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    Thomas907

    09/23/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I read item 4 about marketing oneself as Matthew Fraser saying do as I say and not as I do. The fact his name is put forth as a reference is marketing Matthew.

    Write about irritating things...

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    studyglobal

    09/23/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I personally recommend to split social networks activity between private and business through the network itself. With all the gimmicks a and videos on Facebook, you are likely to expose a side of yourself, that may not suit the professional working world. Instead I like to use linkedin or even more www.xing.com A little bit like wearing a suit to work and getting in you comfy jumper at home.
    Greetings from Berlin

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    Tshepoth

    09/30/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I agree with all the points as i have done some training before on the subject. One point to add is "Do not bombard people with your status update", its pretty annoying to get a status update every five minutes especially on twitter, it fills up my page and often miss what updates from other people.

    Otherwise this is great I must say!

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    Dorothy Higson

    10/24/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    What about PRIVACY? Some people just want PRIVACY.

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    Pro2ProNetwork

    11/03/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    These tips seem really helpful for someone in the job market. I really liked the point about not remaining too private on Facebook. I think job searchers want to see people with real interests or hobbies because they're actual people. There are so many settings most of these social networking sites to limit what employers can and cannot see. So while I do agree on a picture, name, and interests, I think displaying personal messages or offensive photos would be an obvious blunder.

    Pro2ProNetwork
    information@pro2pronetwork.com
    http://www.pro2pronetwork.com

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    sunil.kumar

    11/04/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I am afraid the author has confused himself between a social-network and a professional-network. The ideal choice will be to keep these two distinctly clear from one another. Why would an employer be my friend in a Facebook??? Why will he want to know who my friends are and what i scribble on the wall?? Why will he be keen to see me in all kinds of mood/poses in my album with my family and friends?? This is outrightly invasion of my privacy. Guys there is one thing that is very evident, come what may never allow your professional contacts to be hooked in as a friend in facebook unless he/she is personally known. Everybody has a creative/imaginative personal way to express oneself and that is done better in such social sites. How about somebody staying with you for few days at home with you and/or family before recruiting you?? Will you be fine with this? Cut the crap...Having said that, i totally agree with the Professional sites like Linkedin - you dont post silly stuff out here. This is work where you are expected to maintain the decorum, so be at your professional best when communicating or interacting in these sites. Have a crisp resume, bring out unique skill differentiators, write a small tag line that will make you look unique, these is how you best market yourselves in these website. The other way out is to participate in group discussions and contribue sensibly to your peers/colleagues. Hope this helps those young men/women who dont want their employers to sneak into their facebook and bee seen in their PJ's or with a drink on hand with funny gestures....So the rule of thumb folks is simple Social Sites for - family/friends period. Professional sites are for building professional network period. Let me know your views.

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    bawany

    12/03/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Excellent CPR"article....Contemporary, Practical and Relevant ("CPR) a must read of all!!!

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    makeda1985

    12/14/09 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Comment 17 - you are definitely right, I would hate than my rpofessional contacts to be included in my facebook contacts. Its personal, only for family and friends. That's it!!!!

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    orpiw

    01/01/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Yeah correct, meeting a person at least once is a must to socialize online

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    gement

    01/04/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    The one critique I would make here is that #3 (put up a picture) is not always helpful if you are not white, are very heavy, etc. There's a lot of research documenting that resumes with "white names" (John) get more interview requests than identical resumes with "black names" (Jamal).

    Sometimes going without a picture until you've gotten to know someone better can help get past unconscious filters and assumptions.

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    FOOFEE

    01/15/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    7. Never bother with things like Twitter or Facebook because both of those things are just plain STUPID and IDIOTIC.
    8. Stick with people you know. You do NOT want to meet ANYONE on the internet because they are all a bunch of perverts, liars, scam artists, and probable serial killers.
    9. Never post a PHOTO of yourself ANYWHERE on the internet. Whoever made that suggestion has the brains of an Amoeba.
    10. NEVER use the internet for anything other than research...and then do not take what you learn as "Gospel". Take what you learned and go to a place that still exists in most cities and towns called a "LIBRARY". A "LIBRARY" is a place that NORMAL PEOPLE go to LEARN FACTS...the LIBRARY contains rectangular objects with many interesting items. Do not look for an "on or off" switch. There isn't any. Do not look for batteries. There aren't any of those either. No...you see, these rectangular objects are called "BOOKS". The "many interesting items" in the "BOOKS" are called "PAGES". It is on these "PAGES" that you will find the answers to what you are looking for. You may even BORROW these rectangular objects for FREE for approximately 3 weeks or so.

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    clokverkorange

    01/18/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    @Foofee

    You, my friend, are very, very naive if you think reading
    books is on any kind of equal playing field with Facebook or
    MySpace in terms of social connection. I've made many
    professional connections online that I would have never
    made simply by hanging out at the library.

    The internet is a tool, plain and simple. A good craftsperson
    knows how to use his tools well - ditto a good
    businessperson. Wielded correctly, the internet - social
    media sites in particular - are quite frankly the best thing to
    happen to job seekers in a long time. However, using the
    internet exclusively is where people go wrong.

    Personally, I use social media to keep in contact with people
    that I normally wouldn't be able to, or update a lot of people
    quickly when things happen. Professionally, this is a
    godsend - instead of calling each person individually when I
    hear about a job fair or a company that's hiring, I fire out a
    message to everyone then follow up with the people that
    write back. Also, when I'm at my computer, everything I
    need - phone numbers, dates, email addresses - is at my
    fingertips. In person, I may not have all the info I need right
    away.

    So, Foofee, what a "normal" person would do would be to
    use both person-to-person contact and social media to
    expand their sphere of success exponentially, rather than
    cut themselves off from the "wired world" simply because
    it's full of "liars and scam-artists". I have over 300
    professional contacts on Facebook, not a single one of which
    I would consider a liar, pervert, scam-artist, or serial killer.

    Oh, and as an FYI - you can happen across perverts, liars,
    serial killers, and scam-artists out in the real world as well.

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    01/20/10 | Reported as spam

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    masterlu

    01/21/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    #7 Don't send lists like this to your contacts or they will either
    think you are rude or become embarrassed. This is right up
    there with "accidentally" ordering catalogs from retirement
    communities for your parents.

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    rimete

    01/22/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    One area that is most important and this in general applies to the internet as a whole, but Facebook has been a subject in regards to this: realize that you have no privacy on the internet.

    Doubt that shocks anyone or it might but just a reminder that basically what you post either as a photo/note/blog is open data and will remain as such.

    In short keep private just that and as long as you understand that there is no such thing as privacy on the internet, use your best judgement.

    The article itself covered some good ground and tips, but the one that I liked was the "Don't market yourself" - so true.

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    yuyiya

    01/27/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    "Put up a photo"? What happens if, like me, you're really, REALLY ... unphotogenic? I'm not saying my face cracks mirrors, and quite a few people obviously enjoy my company, so they don't think I'm "The Creature from the Black Lagoon" or even the "Alien" - but as you might guess from those very dated references, I'm not even young! And we all know what a crime that is. wink

    Seriously, I'd need to pay a professional photographer to show me to best advantage. Is it worth it?

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    lpt31

    01/30/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    @yuyiya Yes, it is worth it to post a professional,flattering picture! Internet communications are no less governed by etiquette than in-person interactions. Would you take a meeting with a bag over your head? A professional-looking photograph that captures the essence of your personality is invaluable. Don't be afraid to show your experience and character.

    I do not answer requests on Facebook from users without photos, period. On LinkedIn, profiles without photographs are incomplete. The development of an online profile should be a well though-out strategy. I took my own shots in my home, but I had a wardrobe, make-up and background plan in order to achieve the look that communicated how I needed the image to "read" --- professional, relaxed and confident for my marketing as a solo consultant.

    Producing a professional-looking photograph need not be expensive. Enlist the help of a friend or family member. Someone who knows you can advise you how to present yourself most positively -- from what colors are most flattering to relaxing you in front of the camera. Pay attention to the background. It should be plain and uncluttered. Do you have a nice office? Take a 3/4 shot at your desk. Just think about what message you're trying to send and pay attention to the details. Even lighting [not too harsh or bright], diffused [soft] lighting will be most flattering to more mature faces. Do a light survey around your house/office at different times of the day to see where the best light may be. You may want to rent a lighting set-up or make your own diffuser panels by using white sheets to break up your light source.

    Finally, @gement I am neither white, male, very young or thin. I know those biases exist and have personally lived them out many times. BUT, they do not define me or my practice. I agree that if someone or a company discriminates in this way, you might not want their business. It is a real and valid concern, but I disagree that it is a reason to abandon the rules of engagement.

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    Joyous_LadyJ

    02/19/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    FOOFEE,

    Do not assume that just because something does not appeal to you that it is bad or that it is not good for others. That is akin to attempting to stop everyone from strawberry ice cream because you do not like it.

    I think the readers here are intelligent and able to make their own determination as to whether or not these venues serve them.

    The Internet has many resources and a great deal of factual data including the US Federal Register, all the federal regulators, the IRS rules, FINRA, SEC, OCC, OTS, FDIC, state insurance departments, state securities departments. Additionally, many regulators now require reports to be submitted on-line.

    On the personal side, with two daughters at college, Facebook is a wonderful way for me to not only keep connected with them but to keep in touch with their new friends who they've brought home for visits and high school friends who are now scattered at colleges around the country. Extended family across the country is also able to keep in touch much better via Facebook.

    LinkedIn is a wonderful way to maintain professional contacts. It has been particularly useful during the past few years as it has, at times, felt as if a game of musical chairs was going on with jobs. As long as contacts keep their Email address updated in LinkedIn I am able to maintain contact regardless of job changes. The discussions in 'groups' is also very useful.

    yuyiya,

    Personally, I like 'seasoned' faces. Our characters are written on them, IMO. It is so much easier for me to read a seasoned face than a young one; good character written upon a face is more beautiful than the prettiest or most handsome youthful face, IMO. That is not to say that I do not enjoy the beauty of youth but there is a different and deeper sort of beauty in faces as they mature.

    I would add that being very happy when the photo is taken will have a wonderful impact. My children used to complain that my smile was always the same. While in Athens a few years ago I 'twirlled' before they took the picture (the way a young child will just because it is fun) and the difference in the picture was astounding! Spend an hour journaling about things that you appreciate in others and your life then have your photo taken. . . the difference can be remarkable.

    I like knowing when friends are looking for a job so I can let them know if I hear of something they may be interested in. In the recent economy I tend to go to their profile if I receive the e-mail indicating they have updated their occupation. My first question is always "What do you want to do?" as I don't automatically assume that what they have been doing is what they want to do. I've had one pause into a lengthy silence and then say "I have to call you back. I don't know." I see the transitions as opportunity and, for those who tend to be very loyal to an employer and perhaps not more when we should, an opportunity to find something to do where it is easier to be happy.

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    LvTravel

    03/03/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Great article! Now I really see how these can help a person not only grow but really find a job. I have a few friends that I know that can really use the info and will pass it on to them as well.

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    DarkMagisterX

    03/17/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    Here is an Idea, why not get off your ass and get out and meet people and socialize outside the house. Taking a walk in the park, what a concept.

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    hamiltonbnet

    04/24/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    I ely appreciated this article. While I never use my work spaces for silly, goofy stuff, I do try to come across as a "real person". I can tell you that I get treated with courteousy,and get great answers to my questions- I believe it is because I post with sincerity, and always try to respect the person on the other end. I DO NOT shamelessly promote our company, I figure that if anyone is interested, the link for our website is right there, a click away!
    I DO have a lot of fun, well, not neccessarily fun in the traditional sense, but I get a lot of satsifaction from connecting with others in the professional world.

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    nethervoice

    05/01/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    The on-line line between what's private and what's public is becoming thinner and thinner. The search engine spiders spy on you 24/7, and it's easy to get stuck in their web for an eternity. One thoughtless comment might very well haunt you for years to come.

    That's why there's an emerging field in PR. It's called "Reputation Management".

    Realize that your remarks will live on in cyberspace, long after you have distanced yourself, got sober, apologized, or simply have grown up.

    Number one of my list of Internet No-No's is being unmannered, unpolite and other forms of uncivil behavior).

    Just because we don't see face to face, doesn't mean that this gives us permission to insult anyone and anything.

    Cyberbullying has destroyed lives. Literally. Is that the price we pay for free speech?

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    blusmith81

    06/29/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    i been trying to get ppl to see that the world crazy ppl posting naked picture and stuff up how much drug money they got how much weed they smoke who girl or men they having sex with i meant really you not making your self look good by doing that itjust causing drama and more live life not drama

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    abbyjo

    07/05/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

    it is easier for me as a hearing impaired person who can't stand noise/crowds to socialize on FB, i've never had this many friends at any previous time in my life, all in one place. most are acquaintences, it's true, and i get to know them over time, but without an internet live/visual interface I would be alone with books and CDs, and I would be very socially isolated. FB is a challenge in a way, because I have to build social skills I have not had before when I was busy avoiding noise/crowds.

    I find that for me personally, these rules are a minor challenge compared to the kinds of obstacles I would face without FB as a disabled person with a disability that affects speech/hearing.

    I can get by with email and live relay, FB adds real people to my life, of course I want to watch my boundaries. It is so much easier to do so when every comment is in writing...and it is easy enough to block/drop people if what I l learn about them in a few days or weeks is not compatible with my goals. It is truly a learning experience and I encourage more articles like this, which are helpful especially for the 13-18 crowd, which is still learning about social boundaries.

    I just read some articles about teens and violence, they say there is no known cause, however bullying, violent games, violent peers in the community and school contribute to this phenomenon...FB allows teens to pick and choose, avoiding violent people, violent thoughts, and violent groups, it's a way to have copacetic friends who are not bullies...take advantage of it!

    a.j. ovitsky

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    dvovirtualtech

    07/24/10 | Report as spam

    RE: 6 Things You Should Never Do on Twitter or Facebook

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